I was thinking today about my friends who are entering (or have already entered) this state of "mommy-hood" that I am about to come into. I have been blessed in this pregnancy with several very good friends who are also due around the time I am due. It has been fun to enjoy the journey with them, and I look forward to having chats with them about our little ones as they grow up.
I have also been blessed with countless friends who are already moms (some who have been moms longer than others). In one circle of online friends, I am the newbie at motherhood. I am the only one who has yet to have a baby, and I have found that very comforting. It is a really special gift to be able to go to people who have more experience than I do. I know they probably chuckle to themselves at the nature of my questions, knowing well that the things I worry about now are pretty minor on the scale of things mothers worry about. But they offer their advise, and I am happy to take it, and I trust them, because I know they have much wisdom.
I have so many friends who have been on this journey longer than I have, and it's fun to finally be able to share with them my joys, fears, triumphs and failures. I have been waiting for so long to be able to relate to their daily activities, and to experience the joy of motherhood the way they have.
But what is hard for me, is that I have no local mommy friends in real life. In fact, locally, I don't know anyone at all. All the people I communicate with on a regular basis are much older neighbors or fellow parishioners. The only people I know locally are the people I used to nanny for. We do have friends that live five hours away who we consider our closest friends, but we don't get to see them very often. I really would like to find some mommy friends once this little bundle arrives. The problem is, I have no idea how to do this. How do people find mommy groups? How do people make friends? I've always assumed it was easier to make friends once you had kids, but I realize I have to make the first step, and I don't know what I'm doing!
But with hope, I'll have some mommy friends soon.
i am so glad to be on this journey with you. I can totally relate to the "no mommy friends IRL" thing though as you know.
ReplyDeleteMy solution is to join some mommy and baby groups towards the end of my pregnancy. There are a lot of groups on meetup.com that could help you with this? Plus I am hoping we meet some other couples maybe at our birthing classes?
I don't chuckle at your questions - I had the same ones the first time around...and sometimes still do! :)
ReplyDeleteI don't have very many mommy friends either. I do have a nice group of them online though! I was able to meet one momma through a local mom's group that I've become very close with but the group itself wasn't very good. I would definitely check out the churches in your area and see if they have any groups or meetings for mommas. Or sometimes it just happens randomly - going to the park or doctor's office and meeting somebody there!
Rhian- I will definitely check meetup.com. Hopefully I can find something! and I'm hoping to become friends with one of my neighbors who just had a baby, lol. I'm gonna be all, "hey wanna be friends?". Haha.
ReplyDeleteShay- I didn't even think to check churches too! Good idea, thanks!